Musical Theatre’s BIGGEST Fear EXPOSED
Do you ever feel like time is running out, that you’re too old to chase your dreams in musical theatre? You’re not alone. For many performers, especially women, the fear of getting older—or as I like to call it, FOGO—can feel overwhelming. But here’s the truth: it’s never too late to create the career and life you deserve in musical theatre.
As someone who’s spent decades in this industry as a performer, educator, and now a mentor, I understand this fear all too well. I’ve felt it myself. But I’ve also seen how reframing our mindset and leaning into our life experiences can open doors we never thought possible.
Why Fear of Getting Older Is Common in Musical Theatre
Society has long dictated that our worth as women diminishes with age and that “normal” jobs are the secure, stable paths we should follow. Musical theatre? It’s risky, unpredictable, and unconventional. As we age, responsibilities shift, financial stability becomes a priority, and self-doubt can creep in.
This industry is competitive, and it can be intimidating to audition or take classes alongside performers in their 20s. Opportunities for older performers might seem fewer, but the truth is, the roles evolve as you do.
Think about it: your life experience as a parent, partner, sibling, or even a mentor adds depth to the characters you can now portray. These life lessons are assets, not limitations.
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The Myth of "Too Old" in Musical Theatre
One of my clients recently told me she felt too old to play a role she admired. When I pointed out that the actor currently performing that role on the West End was older than her, she was shocked. It’s easy to fall into the trap of assuming age disqualifies us.
Here’s an exercise: Make a list of 10 to 20 performers you look up to in musical theatre. Look them up—Google, Wikipedia, whatever you need—and check their ages. You’ll be surprised by how many are in their 40s, 50s, or even 60s, still thriving onstage.
The idea that your best years are behind you in your 20s is a myth. Your career can peak at any time. Whether you land your dream role at 25, 45, or 65, every stage of your journey offers something unique.
Why Life Experience Is Your Superpower
As we get older, we bring so much more to the table as performers:
Depth of Emotion: Your highs, lows, and everything in between enrich your characters.
Confidence: You’ve navigated life’s challenges and know yourself better, which translates into stronger, more grounded performances.
Broader Perspectives: Your personal growth adds layers to the stories you tell onstage.
For me, life experiences have also expanded my career into on-camera work, commercials, and even teaching. This versatility has been a gift I never expected.
Breaking Barriers: Training and Confidence at Any Age
One of the biggest challenges older performers face is finding spaces to train and grow. Dance classes and workshops often cater to younger performers, leaving us feeling out of place. But here’s the truth: you are never too old to be a student.
It’s okay to start over, to fail, and to rebuild. As performers, we are athletes. Just like athletes train, so can we. Whether it’s voice lessons, acting workshops, or scene study classes, showing up—even if it’s uncomfortable—is the key to growth.
Practical Steps to Overcome FOGO
Here are a few ways to reframe your mindset and embrace your journey:
Define Your Goals: Ask yourself, What roles do I see myself playing? What stories do I want to tell? Write these down and use them as a guide.
Find Inspiration: Look to performers who are thriving at every stage of life. Learn from their paths and successes.
Take Action: Whether it’s booking a voice lesson, joining a local theatre, or starting your audition tape, every step matters.
Journal Your Journey: Reflect daily on your dreams, fears, and progress. Writing is a powerful tool for clarity and motivation.
Your Dreams Are Worth It
If you’ve ever thought about walking away from your dream because of age, ask yourself: If I left this earth tomorrow, would I regret not trying? If the answer is yes, it’s time to take action.
Your dream could be performing on Broadway, community theatre, or something entirely unique. Whatever it is, age should never be the reason you stop pursuing it.
My Personal Advice
Stay a Student: Never discount the value of training. I’ve worked with students well into their 80s who continue to grow and evolve.
Find a Mentor: Surround yourself with people who inspire and guide you. If you’re looking for structured support, my program, The Empowered Actor, is designed to help performers gain confidence, clarity, and actionable steps to build the career they want.
This is your time to write the next chapter of your career. It’s never too late to chase your dreams in musical theatre.
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Ashlee Espinosa is an accomplished theatre professional with a Master of Fine Arts in Musical Theatre. As a seasoned actress, passionate educator, and dedicated career advisor, she empowers artists to build fulfilling, purpose-driven careers defined by their unique vision of success.
